So, you’ve given everything to your relationship but your partner has decided it’s over. There is a process to a breakup and if you are the one who is getting left alone, your process will be different than the one who is leaving.
At first, you will want to know why and beg your partner not to leave. Anger will soon kick in and you may begin saying terrible things to make your ex feel as terrible as you are feeling right now. Keep one thing in mind. Words can never be taken back so you may want to say nasty things out of anger, but do everything in your power not to do this.
Your self-confidence will soon take a nose-dive and you will be wondering what you could have done differently. Unless you know that you drove your partner away with your actions, just try to remember that it is very possible that you’ve done nothing wrong and it’s an issue that your partner may be dealing with.
Keep strong. The more you bother your ex and beg, the less chance that he or she will ever come back to you. Keep your ex wondering if the right decision was made. The more you appear that this isn’t bothering you that much, the better chance that your ex will become uncertain about the decision to end the relationship.
Don’t call, text or “bump” into your ex. This can be one of the most difficult things to do. Learning how to live without someone when they have taken up most of your time can be difficult. Your first instinct when you see a good movie or you have a bad day will be to call your partner, but give him or her space during this critical period. Your ex needs to realize just how much he or she misses and needs you.
Get out with some of your friends, but make sure it’s not in the same place as your ex. Word will get around that you are moving on and your ex will really begin to wonder about the decision to end the relationship. It will be difficult to actually enjoy yourself, but be sure to keep telling yourself that this is a temporary situation and it won’t be long until you are happy once again.
This would also be a good time for a little self-exploration. Find out who you are and if you let that person go in order to please your partner. If there are things you can do to grow as a person and become a better you, now is the time to work on any issues that you may want to change.
If you concentrate on yourself, it won’t be long until you get a call or a visit from your ex. The time away from each other may actually help to create a better relationship, especially if the two of you can become better communicators from this event. Although it may feel like your world has ended when someone dumps you, it could lead to new beginnings and a strengthened relationship.