To find someone to love you must be ready to love and be loved. If you don’t like yourself you can’t really expect anyone else to like you. You have to be comfortable inside your own skin. Take a good long look at yourself. Decide who you are.
No one is actually perfect. No one has a perfect face or body. Everyone has some kind of quirk and issues. If there are things you don’t like about yourself, change it. In the end you are the only person in world who can truly control you.
Once you are comfortable with yourself and like yourself for who you are and yes, even love yourself, then you can find someone else to love.
Start by being open and friendly. Make sure that you smile. If you walk around with your shoulders stooped, your head down and a grim look on your face, you appear very unfriendly, and even worse, unapproachable. Lift your head up, put your shoulders back and smile.
No matter where you are or what you are doing, you should always look like you are happy and having a great time. People respond to the positive energy you are giving off. They want to flock to the happiness. Members of the opposite sex will flock, too.
Make the most of what you have. You may not look like a movie star. No one looks like movie stars, except, of course, movie stars. Even they look pretty rough in some of those candid shots that are in all of the lovely market tabloids. You want to accentuate your best features. Dress to succeed at dating. Look good, but be comfortable. You have to feel good about what you are wearing.
Always make eye contact with people. Be aware of your surroundings and notice others noticing you. A rule of thumb to follow is if someone makes eye contact from across a room and you are interested, smile and maintain contact for five seconds, then look away. If you are not interested look away quickly and engage in some other activity.
This is a quick and quiet brush off. If someone approaches you and you are not interested, everyone is watching the exchange, especially in a bar or club. If you shut a person down loudly it will be noticed and discourage someone else that you might be interested in from approaching you. Be kind and gentle when letting someone down. Unless of course, they won’t get the message and move on, then any amount of rudeness is more acceptable.
One of the most important aspects in finding love is the dreaded art of conversation. Once the person has caught your eye and the conversation begins, you have to keep them interested. Pouncing on someone with a list of questions can be very off-putting. Great icebreakers, not pick-up lines, can get the conversation rolling and keep it rolling.
Love is about connecting with someone on a deeper level. Having the ability to get a good conversation going is a key to achieving that deeper level. You can find somebody to love when you know how.