Finding the love of your life can be overwhelming and frustrating, when everyone around you seems to have found that special someone. The biggest secret to finding love is to never look for it.
Have you ever noticed that when you are looking for your favorite cuff link or earring, you never find it. You turn the house upside down looking under everything, tearing the cushions off all the furniture and it is nowhere to be found.
One day you are going through your usual routine like any other day, your lost object has been forgotten and you catch a little twinkle in the corner of your eye and there it is glimmering at you from under the chair. You looked under that chair ten times and there it was all along.
Finding your soulmate happens the same way. If you are frantically looking for love, it will continually elude you.
If you are lonely and desperate, others can sense this in you. People who are on the prowl give off a vibe that generally attracts other people that are also on the prowl.
Some people, for reasons of their own, actually look for this and feed off of that desperation. They are generally looking for the dreaded, one night stand. This is not a good basis for a profound and significant connection.
If you are spending your time obsessing over finding the perfect partner, this anxiety can often lead to very bad decisions. Spending too much time in bars and agreeing to set-ups that you know, right from the start, are just not your type.
You may project qualities onto people that they really don’t possess, in order to force them to fit the image that you have in your mind of the one.
One of the worst things about looking for love is that you are wasting time and not doing the things that you really enjoy.
You have to ask yourself, in all of this searching and prowling, are you having a good time? Do you go out where you want and engage in the things in life that make you happy?
Are you spending quality time with your friends or are you spending all of your time with them, just gossiping and strategizing over how to attract someone and keep them?
The best way to find the “one” is to just live your life. Do the things that you like to do and don’t spend time trying to find a love life. When you live your life and experience the things that make you happy, your vibe changes, from one of anxious desperation, to one of a confident, satisfied, well-rounded person.
While you are out having fun and enjoying your life, you are attracting people that are appropriate for your personality and lifestyle. It starts out with drawing in other like-minded friends, who will, in turn, expand your circle of associations. This may lead to something twinkling in the corner of your eye.
That special someone could be glimmering under that chair that you’ve searched ten times already. Stop looking for it and before you know it, the love of your life will appear.