Try not to jump the gun if you notice that your ex is becoming a bit flirtatious or giving you some attention. It can be difficult to know if her or she is really interested in you again or just wants to keep their hold on you for longer. People can be strange sometimes and your ex may just want to hang on, “just in case.”
Really, although you may not want to play games, you may just have to play hard to get. It’s only human nature to want something that you think you can’t have. However, the main thing is to make your ex think back on all the good times and become a bit afraid of losing you for good.
If you and your ex had been together for over a year, you both will miss the relationship when it is over. However, if you become pushy and start clinging, the other person will become distant again and think of all the reasons why leaving seemed like the right thing to do. You want your ex to think that leaving the relationship is the wrong thing to do, but you must know and understand human nature to achieve that goal.
Don’t let your ex use you to stay secure in the fact of knowing that if things don’t work out the way he or she wants them to that you will still be waiting. Don’t answer texts or calls. Remain mysterious and keep your ex guessing if you are still interested. It is only human nature to try to pull someone back if you think you are going to lose them.
This is the most difficult part of trying to get your ex to come back to you. Your ego has already taken a huge hit by being rejected and you probably don’t feel confident in the fact that your ex still has feelings for you. You will think if you don’t stay in front of him or her that you will be forgotten. However, that is never the case. Bide your time and heed this advice if you really want things to work out between you and your ex.
If you make your ex wonder if they still have a hold over you and become unsure, you will notice more attention coming your way. But you have to stay cool and act like you don’t really care and may be happy about the decision to end the relationship in the first place. Sometimes, you really just have to play the game.