It can be very easy to lose your self-respect. If you were in a relationship and your partner put you down constantly, you could be feeling pretty low. The only kind of person that may find you attractive while you are in this state is another controlling person who will act just like your previous partner. Some people need partners that have low self-respect, so they can keep them feeling like no one else wants them.
That is why most people will advice others to give themselves time to heal. When you have just come out of a relationship, you are very vulnerable, because your ego will be in the toilet and you may come off as too desperate. This could attract someone who preys on other people’s vulnerabilities. It can become difficult to attract the right type of person at this point in your life.
Before you begin looking for love again, learn to love yourself. It make take a while to find yourself again, but give yourself that time. Never settle for less than what you want or deserve. If you do settle and tell yourself that this is the best you can do, then it will be the best you can do because you have taken away the chance of meeting someone you could be happy with.
Remember, when you start dating again, you do not need to be joined at the hip to be happy. Everyone needs some time and space for themselves. Never try to change someone and make them the person that you want them to be and do not allow anyone to change you.
You will know when you are ready to begin looking for love again. Don’t rush into anything and make sure you are happy with yourself. There is someone out there, just waiting for you.