When you are a jealous person by nature can really scare off your potential dates. What you will need to do is to discover why you may be jealous by nature and what you can do to fix it.
Most people are usually jealous because of insecurity. A little jealousy is okay. It depends on why you are jealous. If you see your partner or date blatantly flirting with someone, it is natural to feel threatened. Instead of fighting over the threat, two people should talk about it and discuss why the other person made them feel this way.
If there were certain boundaries that were agreed upon in your relationship, there could be good cause of feeling threatened. If you see your date flirting with someone else, you can stop dating the person or talk about it if you wish.
If you are looking for love but know that you have a problem with jealous behavior, you should work on that area before you get into another relationship.
A big problem arises when someone is jealous over something and won’t tell you what is wrong. Instead the person mopes around or acts angry over some little thing. The other person won’t be able to figure out what is going on and then ends up pulling away.
Another big problem arises when the jealous partner tries to put limitations on the other person. This type of person will constantly grill their partner for information any time they are away from each other. They will constantly try to control what their partner can do.
In most cases, the jealous person ends up alone and their partner ends up looking for love in someone else’s arms because of the jealousy.
When two people are dating or in a more serious relationship, it doesn’t mean they are joined at the hips. Everyone needs space and time to be alone with their own thoughts and feelings. You don’t have to take it as a personal insult if someone chooses to do something without you.
If your past relationships dissolved because of jealousy issues on your behalf, you may need to get some counseling for the behavior. Sometimes, these behavioral issues can arise when we are just children. You could have lost a parent and have abandonment issues or maybe you had an abusive parent.
Do not continue looking for love until you can fix yourself. In the healing process, you will also learn how to love yourself.
Jealousy comes from feeling that no one could possibly really love you. You are so full of disgust and hatred for yourself, that you probably feel unlovable.
Because you feel unworthy of love, you are constantly testing that person so that you can prove to yourself that this isn’t true love. When you do that to another person, all you are doing is making him or her feel like a failure and true love may just give up on you.
Just be aware, that you may need help and things like this do not go away on their own. If you know that you behave irrationally and it is the source of problems in your past relationships, seek help to fix this before you begin looking for love again.