Some people cannot figure out why they can’t find someone to love them. They believe they are one of the unlucky ones. They think they are ugly and unlovable. They don’t realize that the only thing keeping them from love is the way they feel about themselves.
No one wants to be around someone that is a drag. You could say something great about that person and that person will argue that it’s not true. Soon, you get sick of arguing and you stop saying nice things. That reinforces the belief that they are unlovable. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. They ensure that they remain unlovable, but continue to try to find someone who will love them.
This article can’t fix all the deep problems that has made someone feel this way to begin with, but there is a way to get started so that someone like this can believe in oneself.
This technique is one of the best things that you can do all on your own. You could go to a therapist to help you with your deep rooted problems, but if you would like to start liking yourself, positive affirmations are the key.
Usually, when someone feels down about themselves, it is because someone that they cared for may have put them down all the time, abandoned them or rejected them. They blame themselves and believe they must indeed be bad if someone is always telling them so or someone has left them.
You can trick your brain into feeling good things just like your brain gets tricked into believing all the bad things. If you want to find love, you must first look within yourself.
Every day when you wake up, just lay in bed for a few moments. Wipe out all bad thoughts from your head. Tell yourself that this is going to be a great day. Tell yourself you are going to CHOOSE to start seeing things more positive. When you arise from your bed, look into the mirror briefly and tell yourself that you are nice looking. Try to erase all the negativity from your mind.
Over time, your brain will believe the things you tell it. It has no choice. You may find yourself sometimes stepping back into a negative state of mind. The awareness is what will push you back in the right direction. Once you start becoming aware of feeling negative is when you can make it right.
As you become more positive, others will flock to be around you and you will become more attractive. An aura will surround you and only you can make it glow. To find love, you don’t have to look very far.